First impressions are crucial. They take only seconds to form and a lifetime to repair. With this in mind, it is a valuable life skill to control and improve the impressions that one leaves on people that they meet. Well-honed Impression Management skills can help students leave lasting impressions on teachers, parents, peers, and anyone else they meet.
What is Impression Management?
Successful students work hard to maintain their grades, but they also must work hard to create and maintain good impressions. In other words, to maximize potential, students need to make sure that they are thought of highly by teachers, parents, and peers. Students should ask themselves: how can I make sure that I get credit for all the work that I do? For example, if a student spends several hours each night studying algebra, he or she should would benefit from good Impression Management techniques to make sure that the teacher knows the hard effort that is going into the class. Impression Management is simply a way to help hard-working students get the recognition that they deserve.
Why Impression Management matters?
Believe it or not, the most successful students are not always the ones with the highest GPA’s and perfect ACT scores. Every student should have realistic, challenging, and measurable personal and academic goals. To ensure that goals are met, students need to “catch the eye” of their teachers, coaches, and other authority figures. This doesn’t always mean being a teacher’s pet or turning in hundreds of extra credit assignments. Rather, successful students demonstrate maturity, drive, and progress in the classroom every day – even when no one is watching. The ability to form positive relationships with teachers, parents, and peers gives students an advantage, both in the classroom and in the larger world beyond. Impression Management matters because teachers, coaches, and admissions offices assess the intangibles in addition to the transcripts and test scores. A charismatic, suave student who always turns in her assignments on time and asks good questions in class will always get the benefit of the doubt. On high school and college applications, glowing recommendation letters allow for teachers and coaches to advocate for students who are willing to go the extra mile. On any subjectively graded assignment, students who consistently demonstrate a willingness to do the work and come in for extra help are often rewarded. When it is time for a student to apply for her first internship, she will be confident in interviews because of a lifetime spent perfecting the art of communication and confidence in her ability to leave a lasting impression on everyone she meets.
How can students make fast improvements to Impression Management skills?
The benefits of Impression Management training are endless, but let’s talk about quick ways that students can improve the maximize their impact on teachers, peers, and other influential people every day, both inside and outside the classroom. Here are seven ways for students to drastically improve Impression Management skills:
- MAKE SURE THE PERSON IN CHARGE KNOWS WHO YOU ARE. This sounds silly, but if a teacher or coach has hundreds of students, you are just another student sitting at a desk in his/her classroom. Make yourself memorable. If possible, go introduce yourself during office hours during the first week of school. Alternatively, show up early and stay a few minutes after class. Spend time getting to know your teacher and having them get to know you. Ask them how their day is going or where they got that peculiar poster on the wall.
- COME PREPARED TO LEARN. Bobby Unser once said, “Success is where preparation meets opportunity”. Successful students show up to class ready to learn every day. They review notes from the day before. They write down questions to ask in class tomorrow. They have a notebook out and homework ready to turn in thirty seconds after they sit down. Teachers notice urgency, preparation, and organization. Make sure that your teacher knows that you want to succeed from day one.
- MAKE SURE THEY SEE YOU. The camouflage of the back row is crippling to the impressions you leave. Sit towards the front of the class. Make sure the teacher sees you taking notes and paying attention during class. Not only will this help you stay focused during class, but it will also put you in the teacher’s good graces.
- ATTEND TUTORIALS… EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T THINK NEED IT! Obviously, seeing your teacher during office hours is a positive thing, but don’t treat tutorials like the Emergency Room. Treat them like the dentist and go even when nothing is wrong. Students who show up outside of academic crises make it very clear that they want to succeed, and they have a plan to do so. Successful students should be attending tutorials at least once every two weeks.
- SAY THANK YOU. Whether it is your parents, your teacher, a janitor, or a stranger who holds open the door for you, say thank you. Gratitude goes on a long way, and successful students know that most of these people never get the recognition for what they do. Sadly, saying thank you is rare in schools. Make yourself stand out and make someone’s day at the same time.
- TWO HEADS ARE BETTER THAN ONE. Learning to network with other students is a success multiplier. Not only will your grades improve, but you will also score some serious social capital with your classmates. Form study groups with other students who are successful in the class. Being able to review and teach each other the material is an excellent way to get ready for an exam. Plus, teachers are always listening in the hallways. Imagine if a teacher hears that a study group that you organized has helped several students in your class succeed.
- LEARN THE ART OF THE EMAIL. There is nothing more disrespectful to a teacher than sending a poorly written email. Start with an appropriate greeting (e.g., Good Morning), a brief but clear message, and end with a simple signature. Self advocation is a crucial life skill, and emails are a great first step for shy students.
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